Planning YOUR perfect wedding.

As some of you may know Ben and I are currently in the middle of planning our wedding. Ben got down on one knee Christmas 2012 and since then we have had so many different ideas on how our special day should go down.
When you are a little girl your wedding seems like a dream and stereotypically you think of the church and the big white dress and how amazing the day will be. Then you grow up, get engaged and realise how expensive that church and big white dress wedding will be,. For so many years the big white wedding was something I thought I really wanted, until it actually came down to planning our day.

#1 Its not just your day!
I think so many brides get carried away with their dream wedding that they forget that its the grooms day too. So many relatives direct questions to me about our plans but its not just my day. Ben has so many ideas on how our day should go and sometimes gets upset at peoples lack of consideration for his part in it as well.

When it comes to actually deciding what kind of wedding you want its so important to remember that you both have a say in how the day goes, and consider all options.

#2 Compromise!
Your starting a lifetime together, its probably best you both learn how to compromise sooner rather than later. If you have different ideas on how things should go discuss them and come to some sort of agreement as to what you really want. But always remember...

#3 The real reason for all of this!
At the end of the special day what really matters is that your getting married to make a promise to one another. You should both be happy with the decisions that you have made, but keep in mind what really matters.

When it comes to budgeting for a wedding planning gets hard. Things are so expensive and there is so much to think of. Its hard to get everything down and then split whatever budget you have between all of those things.

#4 Prepare for some arguments!
Its one of the most stressful events in a persons life. Of course there are going to be some arguments as ironic as it is but it is all worth it. Just remember never go to bed on an argument, its never nice.

Everybody has an opinion and wants you to know about it. Whether its about where you are having your wedding, who you are inviting even down to the colour scheme. But what is the most important thing to keep in mind is...

#5 Its YOUR special day.
Do not let others ruin your day by trying to make it their perfect wedding! It is your day, your marriage and the only people who should have any say in planning it are the bride and groom. It is so hard having so many people tell you how they think you should do this or that, especially people that you love and respect. Take their opinions and advice and thank them, but that doesn't mean you need to put it into action.

I am so excited for my big day especially now we have finally decided on how we are going to get married. We are going to have a small ceremony with very close family and friends away from our home town in a special place to both of us. I can't wait to take you along on our journey with lots of posts on how we are planning it and advice and tips along the way. We have also decided that we are going to start filming bits of our lives and will be taking our camera on this journey down the aisle so stay tuned for more information about that. If you have any tips on planning a wedding do let me know in the comments, I would love some bits of wisdom!